Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Meaning of Love

Real, true love is unconditional
To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with.

 Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.

Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.

What is love NOT?
  • Possessiveness is not love
  • Jealousy is not love
  • Lust is not love
  • Fear is not love
  • Keeping people all to yourself is not love
  • Expecting something from someone is not love
Love is something pure and its like a bliss which can only be experienced or felt once you feel it.

These were exactly my thoughts of love which I found in the article which you can find  here.

Love is eternal in fact if we go by definition we can say it is 
" tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration." 

Q: Do you think any human being can ever love someone 100% unconditionally?
A: Probably not. It’s not always possible to be perfect, but that doesn't  mean that you should not do, you can try and see how far you can do it.

Why I am posting this article because some people or society has defined some boundaries for love, 
like marriage, unconditional sex, physical existence. 
Several misconceptions like if you love someone they should also love you, making it look like business 
when you want to buy something you pay for it and in return you get something.

If you love someone you need to marry - which means you want to keep love in a marriage trap or he/she should be slave for entire life. Does marriage guarantee that love will exist for entire life, it is just for convenience and satisfies most of you r physical and emotional needs and with whom you can spend you entire life.
True Love is seriously not related to sex - love is not lost when you become really old, you just can't relate it physically.

Hope this post throws some light at least some ray of light on What is True love.


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